I've been getting these AITA posts in my FB feed. (For the record, AITA stands for 'am I the asshole?') And since I stopped and read one, they're showing up with startling frequency. Anyway, the whole premise of these things is to lay out a story about something you've done and then ask the world at large whether you're the asshole in the situation.
Okay, I'll admit it... these things are kind of addictive. Unfortunately, in order to see the whole story on any of them, you have to click a link or something, so I'm only going off the parts I can see without clicking. Still, for the most part, I think the person telling the story is not the asshole. (Occasionally, the person is definitely the asshole.)
For instance, I read one this morning about a dad who had sole custody of his teenage daughter, and it seemed like every time he got after her about anything, she's play the 'I want to go live with mom' card. Finally, after she was particularly rotten, he gave her what she wanted. He packed her bags and dropped her off at her mom's to live. Within a day, she was asking to come home. He left her there for four days and then let her come home. Like I said, I didn't read how it all turned out, but it seemed pretty reasonable to me.
Thinking about it all now, I feel sad for people who think they need to ask whether they're the asshole in any given situation. If you thought what you were doing was right when you did it, what exactly is making you think otherwise now? Explore that before you go looking for validation online. You can probably tell for yourself whether or not you were the asshole, hindsight being 20/20 and all that.
I expect those things are probably not all true. Clickbait, doncha know. Except I never click because, while the story was interesting to read, I don't really care what the outcome was. Does that make me the asshole? ;o)